Falling in love is a beautiful feeling. To love someone and to receive love takes everybody to cloud 9. The feeling is intoxicating and soon enough you’ll be an addict. But in real-life, love takes a twist. When it comes to commitments and relationships people find it hard to keep the fire alive, especially in long-distance relationships.
There’s not a single person I’ve ever met who has believed that long-distance relationships work. Long-distance relationships are always looked upon with disdain. People believe that the geographical distance between their partner is equal to the distance between their hearts. Why are long-distance relationships seen as a means to an end?
Humans are very social creatures. We can’t survive without the other. We need to feel our partners next to us. Their presence is reassuring and it’s great to have someone to come home to. It’s easier when we can see them whenever we want and know exactly what they’re doing at any time of the day. It is easier when we can hug them or kiss them when we want to. Also It’s scary when all the instant gratification disappears one day when your partner is moving away. Now, your love has to survive the “distance”.
Here’s how you can brave distance between you and your partner:
1. Trust, Respect, and Space!
True love isn’t the fairy-tale we grew up to believe. It is so much more. Our partner is our best friend, our movie buddy and our go-to person. At the end of the day, their company adds more to your life with something as simple as happy conversations, and that’s why you chose to be them. But it is important to understand that you are two separate individuals who have chosen to share their lives. That means you should give your partner the space they need to live their life and trust them with their decisions. Above all, you should respect each other and never take the other for granted.
2. Be Independent!
Many relationships fail because they are too dependent on the other person to meet their emotional needs. Being too clingy can be suffocating for anyone. Never give up your life to please another person. You should live your life and let them live their lives. You are partners. You’re NOT co-dependent. They should add more value to your life than everything you already add to yourself. Be your person. Be independent. Share your love and life. Love should be growth. Never sacrifice.
3. Communicate!
Communication is key to every relationship, especially long-distance relationships. You can’t see them or go out on dates, so it’s important to communicate and let your partner know about your day, your life, your schedule and everything he/she is missing. But communication doesn’t mean you’re on the phone 24*7 with them. No, excessive communication hinders relationships. It means that you update each other with everything. Video call whenever you can. Text each other. Send letters and gifts to each other. Make each other feel special. Most importantly, make sure they wake up to your “good morning” and go to sleep with your “goodnight.”
4. Visit and Travel!
Make sure you pack your bags and visit each other. Plan trips together. Hitchhike through the country. Fly and find each other. Explore the world together. No matter what the distance, make sure you find each other. As the saying goes, “Couples who travel together, stay together.”
But all this will only work if you believe in the love you hold for each other, make time for each other, and understand each other. Geographical distance can be easily overcome. Never let your hearts drift away from each other. Believe that love conquers all because it does.
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